TakeAway: You drove miles to hear this preached? Yikes! And the church spends money to put this on a website?

TakeAway:  And you drove miles  to a church to hear this  preached?  preached

Yikes! And that  church spends   money to  put this on  a website?  

What to do to improve?  

 Issue:  A man leaves his wife for another woman after having cared for his wife for  the last several years.  His wife has  Alzheimer’s.  

Alzheimer's
A man leaves his wife who has Alzheimer’s

 What do you say about this?  Has the man betrayed his vows?  Or is he meeting his needs?  

 Based on 1 Corinthians 1: 18-25,  the sermon at St. Andrew Presbyterian Church in Aptos  August 21, 2016  is   about the Greek  world view versus the Hebrew world view. And how these two world  views — Greek and Hebrew – collide today, both  personally and politically.

 The Greek  world  view:  The Rev.  Anne Mcanelly quotes from a book by Elizabeth Gilbert titled Committed: A Love Story p. 250 (on Amazon for $16.09 or Kindle for $11.99)

that  “the Greeks gave us all our notions about democracy, equality, personal liberty, individualism ….   and what we might call multiculturalism…”

The Hebrew world view:  “And then there is the world view of the Hebrews … including the ancient world view that is all about tribalism, faith, obedience and respect.  This way of thinking is clannish,   patriarchal, authoritarian, moralistic, ritualistic and suspicious of outsiders….   The collective is always more important than the individual, morality is more important than happiness and vows are inviolable”  (pg. 251 Unbreakable)

The preacher then asks, Which are you — are you finding yourself more in the Greek camp,

which are you
Which are you?  More in the Greek god camp …

or  are you more attuned to the Hebrew way of thinking?

Hebrew God
or  more in the Hebrew God camp?

To cover all bases she says, “Of course there is no right or wrong preference and when we understand how we see the world and maybe how our close  relatives do as well, we might discover some insight how to get along better….”

The Rev.  goes on to say, “A friend of mine told me about a family crises.  Her father-in-law is leaving his wife for another woman….  the twist in the story is that the wife has Alzheimer and the man cared for his wife for severeal years but now has started dating someone else.

My friend felt betrayed… I reminded her that its his very Greek way of thinking he is simply looking out for himself. He is placing personal needs ahead of loyalty and faithfulness and that is not sitting very well with my friend.  Now most of us would expect the husband to be loyal, but what is at issue is the world view more than moral fiber.”

“This Greek/ Hebrew dichotomy can also played  out in the political realm, where  some see every decision only in the way it would affect them — a very Greek way of thinking.  While others see a more holistic , community and ask what might be be better for all concerned, thereby favoring the Hebrew way….”

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Aptos Psychologist:  Many sermons — including this one — just don’t ‘work’.    As many sermons do, this sermon sets up a false  this or that dichotomy (Greek versus Hebrew world view ).  In reality, many people  in the pews know that they are both …  and more.  Ho, hum. Snooze time……

Maybe what some  Christian churches — for sure this one —  needs is a FeedBack form for pew sitters.  Let people comment right then and there as to what they heard and how helpful/ useful it is.

As  part of the church bulletin on the back page put:   Comments?  On a scale of 1 to 5 with 1 = Low and 5 = High   And 3 = ???    What did I TakeAway from this sermon that I will/ can use? Encourage people to tear off the Comments? and put them in the basket along with their money.

As for Aptos Psychologist,  for this sermon I would rate it a 3  — ????  Not horrible. But not useful.

Gilbert’s description of the Hebrew God as “clannish, suspicious, patriarchal…”  (quoted in the sermon)  seems similar to that as portrayed in  A God Who Hates: The Courageous Woman who Inflamed  the Muslim World Speaks Out …  by  Wafa Sultan   That book IS worth reading.

St. Andrew Presbyterian Church in Aptos, CA  www.aptospresbytermianchurch.org lists a contact number 831 688-4211 and an email   to reach the Office.

Located at 9850 Monroe Avenue, Aptos, CA 95003

Sundays:  9:00 AM for adult education and 10:30 for worship.

Christ Crucified Is God’s Power and Wisdom

18 For the message of the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing, but to us who are being saved it is the power of God.
19 For it is written: “I will destroy the wisdom of the wise; the intelligence of the intelligent I will frustrate.”
20 Where is the wise person? Where is the teacher of the law? Where is the philosopher of this age? Has not God made foolish the wisdom of the world?
21 For since in the wisdom of God the world through its wisdom did not know him, God was pleased through the foolishness of what was preached to save those who believe.
22 Jews demand signs and Greeks look for wisdom,
23 but we preach Christ crucified: a stumbling block to Jews and foolishness to Gentiles,
24 but to those whom God has called, both Jews and Greeks, Christ the power of God and the wisdom of God.
25 For the foolishness of God is wiser than human wisdom, and the weakness of God is stronger than human strength.
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TakeAway: Really? One sermon on How to Keep God’s Sabbath Day Holy (Whole)? Yawn.

TakeAway
TakeAway:  How to Keep God’s  Sabbath Day Holy (Whole)?

TakeAway:   Really?  One sermon on How to Keep God’s  Sabbath Day Holy (Whole). Yawn.

Years ago people heard the message ‘don’t work on Sunday and go to church.’ That’s how you ‘keep the sabbath’.    Times have changed. That message has morphed …. Are new ideas a better fit for today?

Gospel:  Luke 13:10 – 17   Jesus heals a woman on the sabbath, offering her a new beginning for her life.  When challenged by a narrow reading of the sabbath command, Jesus responds by expanding “sabbath work” to include setting people free from bondage.

“Now Jesus was teaching … And just them there appeared a woman with a spirit that had crippled her for eighteen years.  She was bent over and quite unable to stand up straight.  When Jesus saw her, he called her over and said, “Woman, you are set free from your ailment.”

Jesus heals and lifts up woman bent over for 18 years
On the sabbath,  Jesus heals and lifts up a  woman bent over for 18 years.

When he laid his hands on her, immediately she stood up straight and began praising God  But the leader of  the snyagogue, indignant because Jesus had cured on the sabbath, kept saying to the crowd, “There are six days on which work ought to be done;  come on those days and be cured, and not on the sabbath day.”

But the Lord answered him and said,  “You hypocrites!   Does not each of you on the sabbath untie his ox or his donkey from the manger, and lead it away to give it water?

give donkey water?
Ok to give donkey water on  the sabbath? Of course!

And ought now this woman, a daughter of Abraham whom Satan bound for eighteen long years, be set free  from this bondage on the sabbath day?

TakeAway:  This is what one person   took away —   from  Christ Lutheran Church,

 www.AptosChurch.org

“Remember the sabbath day.  Call the sabbath a delight.  This is the Lord’s day and the Lord will  do for us what the Lord does:  feed us, forgive us, help and heal us.  Rejoice at all the wonderful things God is doing.”

Here are some ways  to “remember the sabbath…  Here’s some new ideas how to do it today. This is from a sermon delivered in an Aptos, CA church today:

Look for Perspective.

how you want to sped your time versus do spend your time?
How do you want to spend your time  — versus  how  do you actually spend your time? When first year college kids were asked this question there was a huge dis-connect.  What do you want to do with your time to move toward what goals?

Learn Balance:

learn balance, how you allocate your priorities
Do something  different you’ve never done before. Learn new skills.  Learn balance — so  that you prioritize.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Seek Renewal of your spiritual batteries.

recharge
Take time to recharge your spiritual battery.  Sit and be quiet.  Then,  re-charged,  when you get up and leave,  things are different.  Take time to ponder, forgive, heal.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Reach out and Connect:

connect sayinghello
Connect saying hello, Perhaps play a game  with children and share. Or go to a picnic. Say hello to people you  only slightly know.  Reach out.  Doing things with others gets us out of ourselves.

 

 

Comments?  Thoughts?  What did you ‘TakeAway’ today this sabbath, August 21, 2016?

 For more happenings at this church, go to  http://www.AptosChurch.org

 Readings for next week include Luke 14:1, 7-14.

So — are the new ideas listed above  how to ‘keep the sabbath  holy’ a better fit for today’s world?   Do they work for you? What do you #TakeAway ?

Maybe just ‘don’t work and do things that slow you down’ says it all. Off to work tomorrow!

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Your precious money put in the church plate goes for a website? Oh, no!!

Your precious money put  in the  church plate

money in church plate go for website?
Your precious money put n the church plate goes  for a website?

goes for  a website? Oh no!

waste money
Waste money on a church website?  Easy to do!

Church websites are so, sooooo boring!  And so useless!  

 

 

Typically   you’ll see  the same  old   pages at the top:

Staff         Worship        Outreach     Calendar

 Why useless?   Active members never look.  Why?  Active members know what’s going on having been to their church  recently. As for what’s really going on behind the scene — well that’s never put up on the church  website.  You have to be ‘in the know’.

Why boring?   Little is put up on a church website that’s really interesting or entertaining.God forbid!

holding hands
holding hands in church? My, my!

Have you ever seen photos of who is holding who’s  hands in church?

No.   Church website typically show photos of persons who made the largest donations.

Gee whiz.  How exciting. There’s another picture of so and so who gave the most money  last year.

What might   be interesting,  entertaining or useful  to find on a church website?   How about ….

Jobs!       Gossip & News!       Weekly Raffle!    TakeAway!

 Now people  — active and thinking about attending —  might read those pages.  These pages are appropriate and fun.  

 

jobs

 Jobs! The priest / pastor’s job is to equip the  Christian Saints.  And that means that each and every  Christian Saint has a job or several jobs to do.  What spiritual gifts do  you have as a Saint or becoming Saint?  

 So yes — Jobs!  That Page could be at the top of  your church website.    

Gossip and News!  Why that’s the life blood for  some and it can be quite entertaining to read.   Gossip is rumors and chatty information: A man named Jesus was seen hanging out with women who are not his sisters … Will that pass for gossip? Or, how about this:    there’s rumors that so and so  was seen near Safeway in #Aptosia   helping a wheel chair bound lady …. See picture on Twitter!  Add your  own fun gossip and news!

 Weekly Raffle!   So “old” and “new” check in to see who won what and what’s up there next week. People have to find out via their computer to know if they won. Post what’s freely offered  via  a weekly raffle by posting on SantaCruzCountyFreecycle:

https://groups.freecycle.org/group/SantaCruzCountyFreecycle/posts/all

Why not use church parking lots for a barter/ exchange so people can get and give stuff easily and safely?    For example, right now we’re  looking for a free  redwood picnic table for use at #AptosCommunityGarden .  So, there’s a post listed up there.

 

TakeAway
TakeAway heard by pew sitters

TakeAway!   So what did you “TakeAway” from the weekly sermon/ homily?   Church websites typically are  one-way advertisements. Churches  put out “their message”.

Want to know what those in the pew thought of what someone said from the pulpit?  Let the pew sitters say what they “Takeaway”. Make the website interactive.

Let people  post “TakeAway”  as to what they heard.  Or thought they heard. Permit conversation right there on the website.  Wonder whether “old” and “new” might check in to see what others thought?  You bet they will check in.

It’s really too bad that most church websites are largely  useless for attracting people to walk in the door ….. or hang outside where the food/ coffee might be!  

Why are so many church websites so useless?    Take a look at them.

  Is there a Contact Form?   Nope. There could be.   Here’s one example for an Episcopal church:     

contact form for one church
contact form for one church

Does your  church  website have a contact page or better yet specific contact forms which  say: 

HELLO! to the person landing on that specific webpage!

For example.  Say a person goes to the church website and then “hits” on the Sunday School page.  

A contact form could say —  Hi!  Are you interested in the Sunday School as you have children?  Fill out this form and someone from Sunday School will answer your questions within the next 24 hours ….

Quite a few persons  looking to attend a faith based community has skills already developed and probably has skills which could be developed.

So  yes — have contact forms which  inquire what skills that person already has.  And might like to develop.

For God’s sake, show an interest in that particular, unique person!

unique person
unique person

How about a Contact Form that says:   Hi! Tell us a little about your skills –which you have?  want to develop?

We  will get back to you how you can use  your skills or grow your skills.

This Christian community has a special  job for each person!  

A recent look at  websites for several  Christian churches located   in Aptos, CA  shows no Contact Forms.  Take a look and see.  

 http://resurrection-aptos.org/

http://www.aptoschurch.org 

http://www.st-john-aptos.org 

Want to attract people?  Put  on your church website specific Contact Forms that attract people (“old” and “new”) to  smell the roses, slow down,  focus on what’s important.  And have fun!    Make it easy for new people to let others know about the skills and interests they have.  Make it easy for people  to want to go in that door ….

smell the roses
smell the roses

….  for nourishment needed   to go out  in the world and share God’s love.

Yes, take that   money that goes for  your church website and make sure that  it’s spent better.  

 

 

 

Have  specific Contact Forms that actually say Hello!  Tell us a little about yourself so  that we can get back to you and answer your  specific questions.   

Contact me!
Use specific Contact Forms geared to inquire.

 

 

 

 

 

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Mystics and you

 

Mystics and You:   A Day of Prayer for Women in Santa Cruz, CA, August 29, 2016

“The glory of God is the human person fully alive.”  Irenaeus Lyons

Mystics and you
Mystics and you at Villa Maria Del Mar Retreat

Taking stories from the lives of mystics to reflect upon:

Courage:  to stand by one’s heart

Hope:  to stay open to dreams, blessings and other possibilities

Humor:  to foster joy and maintain flexibility

Trust:  to maintain openness, curiosity and faith

Forgiving and being forgiven:  to restore spiritual balance

Gratitude:  to live our lives to the fullest and in union with the divine.

Come for a day of prayer, reflection and spiritual companionship by the ocean.

Mystics and you
Mystics and you at Villa Maria Del Mar Retreat

Villa Maria Del Mar Retreat Center, 21918 East Cliff Drive, Santa Cruz, CA

Cost is $65.00 includes lunch.  Facilitators:  Carmella Dautoff and Rosemarie Peoples.  For more information contact Rosemarie at rosemarie778@gmail.com or 408 623-7502

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Aptos Psychologist: I like Agnes Sanford, a modern mystic/ practical healer.

Take a look at   The Healing Gifts of the Spirit by Agnes Sanford.   Available through  Amazon Kindle,  paperback through  The Word Shop, 245 Center Ave., Aptos, CA   adboods@aol.com

Re a modern mystic, Catholic vintage see:  http://www.mysticsofthechurch.com/2010/10/maria-esperanza-modern-day-mystic-and.html

 

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Community Garden Aptos

Aptos Community Garden welcomes yuu
community garden Aptos 

 

Community garden Aptos CA  — serene & peaceful.    831 688  5727

10707 Soquel Drive, Aptos CA 95003

View it.  Experience it.  Walk through it.

The garden is there for you and others who live in   Aptos, CA and near by communities  including  Watsonville,  Freedom, La Selva, Rio del Mar, Soquel,  Capitola and Santa Cruz,  CA  And, yes,  people from Scotts Valley are welcome also.  All are welcome!

Are you on holiday  visiting Aptos, CA?    Or near by areas?   Bring a bag lunch to  the garden.  Walk around. Find the garden by taking the Freedom exit off  Highway #1 and look for the California  Highway Patrol (CHP) office.  The garden is right next door at 10707 Soquel Drive in Aptos.

Here you will find rest.  Serenity.  Peace.

Are you visiting someone ill in the community?  Perhaps you are taking care of  a relative at Dominican Hospital or Watsonville Hospital?  Perhaps you need a breather.  Come to the Aptos Community Garden  for a few minutes of peace, serenity and beauty.

Do you want to garden and like to do so with others?  Garden plots at Aptos Community  Garden are still available. Call 831 688 5727 extension 2 and leave a message.  You will get a call back within 24 hours.  You can also stop by and look around to see which plots are still available. Plots with a small red flag indicate availability.  As of July, 2016   plots including  # 38, 47, 65, 67 72 and  24 are available.

And, do you like or at least tolerate gophers?      We have plenty of gophers  to share! And birds.  And,perhaps,  you may  see owls, hawks  and other critters.

Aptos Community Garden  operates under the 501c3 of  Christ Lutheran Church,  Aptos, CA

Stop by Sundays around 11:15  – noon for  a piece of fruit, cheese and a cookie.

Visitors always welcome.

Christ Lutheran Church in Aptos, CA   http://www.aptoschurch.org  welcomes  all   — no exceptions.

Church worship  services are  at 10 am every Sunday.

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Entering the Garden of Healing

 

          Entering  the Garden of Healing

Garden of Healing
Garden of Healing

Saturday, January 30  from 10:00 to 2:00

              Songs

                                 Stories

                                                  How I Got Here

                   Morning Workshops

Inner Healing with Andea Seitz

Your Spiritual Tool Box with Alliee DeArmond

 

Lunch and Healing Circles

Special Guest:   Lynn Wagner on  Forgiveness

Individual Prayer

St John the Baptist Episcopal Church

125 Canterbury Drive, Aptos, CA

 http://www.st-john-aptos.org/

For more information contact Sherrie DeWitt 831 345-0514

Saturday January 30 2016 10:00 – 2:00

https://orderofstluke.org/en/                 This healing event is listed on the web site of Order of St. Luke

http://www.companyofsaints.com/       Aptos CA  book store operated by Alliee DeArmond

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Aging with Grace, Gratitude & Grit, a senior ministry event at Resurrection Catholic Community in Aptos, CA

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Aging with Grace, Gratitude & Grit, a  senior ministry event, held at   Resurrection Catholic Community, Aptos, CA.  contact hffox@att.com

Aging with Grace, Gratitude & Grit, a  senior ministry event at  Resurrection Catholic Community, Aptos, CA

Friday, October 9, 9:15 am – noon

Location:  Parish Hall at Resurrection Catholic Community in Aptos, CA

  Aging with Grace, Gratitude & Grit with  presenter Karen O’Connor gives you an opportunity  to connect with your faith community with a good laugh!

 

                                                                      You will experience journaling,   art and  moving meditation.

Cost:  $15. 00 includes lunch and a copy of Karen O’Connor’s book,    365 Reasons Why Gettin’ Old Ain’t That Bad

365 reasons why

 

Contact Helena Fox, Resurrection Parish Senior Service Coordinator,  688-4800 x17    hffox@att.com

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comments by Monterey Bay Forum, Psychologist  DrCameron:

Does it matter how we age?  Who ages most successfully?  Yes!

George Vaillant, in his book, Aging Wellwhich is based on the Harvard Study of Adult Development, concludes that “[those] who have aged most successfully are those who worry less about cholesterol and waistlines and more about gratitude and forgiveness.”  Other researchers also note the improvement in life satisfaction that accompanies their enhancement.   Vaillant suggests that it’s important to:

  • Develop a clear sense of the meaning of gratitude and forgiveness
  • Consider and appreciate what the research says about the impact of gratitude and forgiveness on the quality of life
  • Learn ways to  enhance the development of the capacity both gratitude and forgiveness

The event hosted Aging with Grace, Gratitude and Grit hosted at Resurrection Catholic Community in Aptos, CA on Oct. 9 gives you an opportunity  connect with your faith community.

http://resurrection-aptos.org/

http://www.amazon.com/365-Reasons-Why-Gettin-Aint/dp/0736928596

http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/gg_live/greater_good_gratitude_summit/speaker/wendy_mendes/how_does_gratitude_affect_health_and_aging/

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the Pope said what we decide he said

Pole says abortion is killing
The Pope said what we decide he said.

The Pope said what we decide  he said.

In Pope Francis’ historic “virtual town hall” last week, the Pope used blunt language.  He   described abortion as killing. And,  Time magazine has felt the need to tone the Pope’s language down by deleting the offensive expression.

Of course, Time magazine wasn’t alone.

The New York Times, the Washington Post, the LA Times, and USA Today didn’t bother reporting on the Pope’s references to abortion at all.   A strong pro-life message doesn’t fit within their narrative of what they want this Pope to be. But at least they didn’t resort to actually fudging Francis’ words.

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 Firenze Sage:  The pope said,Global warming will kill us in 50 years, but abortion(deleted)…

http://www.breitbart.com/big-government/2015/09/07/time-magazine-censors-popes-message-on-abortion/

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/pope-francis-speech-gay-marriage-abortion-congress_56040856e4b0fde8b0d16f99

http://thefederalist.com/2015/09/23/ted-cruz-pope-francis-leads-on-abortion-marriage-and-religious-liberty/

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Move over Lord Byron here comes Fen Chou

poetry
poetry

Move over Lord Byron here comes Fen Chou.

A  furious ethnic scandal in the world of poetry.:   a white guy got his poem accepted in the 2015 edition of Best American Poetry by

writing under the pen name, “Yi-Fen Chou.” A poem rejected by 40 journals under the name “Michael Derrick Hudson” suddenly became more liked by the editors.

Isn’t the 2015 edition of Best American Poetry precisely where you would expect to see runaway political correctness? Be bothered by this, but don’t be surprised. For better or worse, the editor of the book comes out and addresses his thinking process openly and honestly:

I did exactly what that pseudonym-user feared other editors had done to him in the past: I paid more initial attention to his poem because of my perception and misperception of the poet’s identity. Bluntly stated, I was more amenable to the poem because I thought the author was Chinese American . .

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Firenze Sage:   National review actually reviewed and found this bit of …..  depravity.

http://www.npr.org/sections/codeswitch/2015/09/10/439247027/why-a-white-poet-posed-as-asian-to-get-published-and-whats-wrong-with-that

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below is a poem by Lord Byron

BY LORD BYRON (GEORGE GORDON)

She walks in beauty, like the night
   Of cloudless climes and starry skies;
And all that’s best of dark and bright
   Meet in her aspect and her eyes;
Thus mellowed to that tender light
   Which heaven to gaudy day denies.
One shade the more, one ray the less,
   Had half impaired the nameless grace
Which waves in every raven tress,
   Or softly lightens o’er her face;
Where thoughts serenely sweet express,
   How pure, how dear their dwelling-place.
And on that cheek, and o’er that brow,
   So soft, so calm, yet eloquent,
The smiles that win, the tints that glow,
   But tell of days in goodness spent,
A mind at peace with all below,
   A heart whose love is innocent!
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Senior Ministry Workshops, Resurrection Catholic Community, Aptos, CA

senior service workshops
Senior Ministry  Workshops,  Resurrection Catholic Community, Aptos, CA

Senior Ministry Workshops, Resurrection Catholic Community, Aptos, CA

Resurrection Catholic Community in Aptos, CA  offers “pop-up” workshops and events throughout the year.

Three upcoming events for October and November, 2015:

Aging with Grace, Gratitude and Grit,  Friday, October 9 form 9:30 to 11:30 AM.  A special morning for men and women to explore journaling, discussion and balance in our spiritual lives. More details to follow.

A Day of Spiritual Renewal for Caregivers, Saturday, October 24 from 9:30 to 3:30 PM, Resurrection Parish Youth Center.  $28 per person includes hospitality and lunch.  For men and women caregivers.

Healthy Eating Workshop and Harvest Luncheon, Friday, November 13 from 10:00 AM to 12 noon,  Markey Hall.  Chef Adriennne Meier. Donation.

The Pastor of Resurrection Catholic Community is Rev. Ron Shirley.  Pastoral Associate is Deacon Patrick Conway

 

Rev. Ron Shirley
Rev. Ron Shirley

 

 

Deacon Patrick
Deacon Patrick

For more information  concerning Senior Ministry workshops, if you have a need or are called to serve in this ministry,  contact Helena at 688-4300 # 17 or email hhfox@att.net.  Helena is available Tuesdays, Wednesdays and Thursdays 8:30  AM to 2:30 PM.

Helena thanks all who have attended a focus group, offered support or suggestions via email, US mail, phone call or have dropped by to share a visit.  Some themes that have emerged are the importance of socialization and connection, and the value of being knowledgeable about accessing resources or having a well-informed “go-go” person to call.

http://www.resurrection-aptos.org

http://www.fatherron.com

http://www.dioceseofmonterey.org

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